A daughter of a friend has a unique experience to visit a relative that has performed a significant role in their family's life. Because of the age of this relative and other factors, he does not act as himself. When faced with the decision of visiting this relative, the question is, how will I remember him? He is a better man than the way he may appear, when I look back on this moment and when I look back on my family history, am I going to only think of him in this way?
My answer: visit him. Whether it is a relative, friend, associate, or a complete stranger, nothing can substitute for a visit in the flesh. If possible touch him, grab his hand, feel the smoothness of his skin and the weight of his hand. You choose how you wish to remember people. We decide what factors, what parts of that person's personality we want to remember. We will make judgements whether we want to or not, so decide what kind of judgements you want to make. Decide on your own how you will remember the person. And how you wish to remember a person may very well reflect how people remember you. How you remember a person may reflect your own beliefs, standards, and life of your soul. Savor every moment you can, especially with people who are significant in your life, and decide for yourself how you will remember that person.
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